“…unless they’re relating a long story and you can save them time by saying you already heard it”.
Always a caveat.
I was telling a friend a joke today, or rather sending it via email, and I got a reply back: “You already told me that one.” At first I was chagrined at having to waste my friend’s time, but then I thought, “Wait a tick. Why did he say that?”
As far as I can see, such discourse always embarrasses the person who’s repeated himself. (I’m not saying that people do that on purpose, as some people just say “You told me that already” automatically.) And it seems totally unnecessary, as it adds nothing to the conversation except to assert—perhaps unconsciously—a form of dominance. After all, what, really, is the downside of listening to a short joke or something similar and pretending you hadn’t heard it before?
My own policy is to listen as if I hadn’t heard it before. I see nothing positive in telling somebody “You’ve already told…
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